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South African rapist: ‘Forgive me’

I know that this is really old but it really fits with our material. A man in South Africa is asking the woman he has raped to forgive him for his actions. He goes on to tell a story of how he was virtually pressured into raping a girl and it was also seen as a kind of rite of passage when he was younger. Since then, he has found god, and joined a NGO. This has prompted him to eventually seek forgiveness from the woman that he has harmed. Interestingly, the NGO he works for also deals with the daily lives of women. He is also prepared for any jail time that he might face, showing that he has fully come to terms with what he has done.


2 responses to “South African rapist: ‘Forgive me’

  1. marinagans February 2, 2011 at 3:20 pm

    I think this is a great article. This is a great example of how pressure is a key problem in society to do inhumane things. It was pressure and the fear of being disgraced that allowed regular German youth in the third Reich to commit acts of murder, torture and rape. As with Rwanda there was a fear that if you did not kill others you would be killed yourself. Pressure can do alot to a person, it can cause us to commit acts of violence we never thought possible. In the case of this rape in South Africa, this mans acts were not condemned by his peers but applauded. If you commit malicious acts of rape, torture, murder, genocide ect and instead of telling you it is wrong your peers encourage it, it becomes that much easier to commit these acts again. Once you get over your own self guilt and are brainwashed into thinking that what you are doing is good and beneficial for society it is that much easier to do it over and over again. This boy raped once and did not allow himself to be brain washed he changed his ways and joined a religious group that allowed him to see that rape was wrong. However if we think about the mass rapes that occur in south africa on a daily basis it is easy to hypothesis that one day one scared little boy raped a women, was applauded for his efforts and was so drawn into the feeling of praise that he continued to rape over and over again until it became a life habit. These trends begin so easily, and if there is no one there to discourage the improper behavior often people will continue to do it.

  2. ehsaunde February 2, 2011 at 5:14 pm

    This article was both disturbing and touching. I find it amazing that this made realized his wrong and actually had the will to do something about it. There is something very wrong with the way young boys are raised in Africa. For some reason, this rite of passage into manhood seems necessary to them. How can you even blame the young men? After all, they only think that what they are doing it ‘mature’. I like the idea of organizations going out to teach young boys about what it really means to grow up. Also, as much harm as religion causes, in this case it is actually helping. I think we need to spend less time accusing leaders of the atrocities they have committed in years past and worry more about the current issues and how to stop things like rape from occurring.

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